Alexandra Elle Promotes Self Love Through Her Notes

    We all could use a dose of positivity in our lives, let alone our Instagram feeds. Author and wellness consultant Alexandra Elle is here to do just that, posting daily reminders about self-care and healing your mind.

    Living in the Washington, DC metro area with her husband and children, Elle admits that writing came into her life by way of therapy and the exploration of healing through journaling. Now, she passes it on, teaching workshops and retreats centered around assisting others in finding their voices through storytelling, poetry, and narrative writing rooted in truth without shame.

    “I still feel vulnerable when I share my writing,” she admitted in an interview with Create & Cultivate. “It’s my heart’s work. I think vulnerability is good, so I lean into it. People relate to authenticity and I truly believe that being vulnerable helps amplify that.”

    Indeed, people are relating to her. With more than 500 thousand followers on Instagram, several books to her name, as well as her own podcast, Elle has got her work cut out for her.

    “The highlight of my career has been building a community near and far, in person and online,” she shared. “It blows my mind how writing, storying telling, and standing in comradery can shift the dynamics of sisterhood and self-love in such a positive way, time and time again.”

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    Notes on Going for It: When I self-published my first book 6 years ago, I did not expect my life to transform. I went from working a 9-5, to taking a risk by sharing my story, to quitting my toxic day job where I was undervalued, to speaking at a Ohio State University shortly after I resigned. . . I went on to self-publish a few more projects before being picked up by my first traditional publishing house who gave me a taste of what I wanted and didn’t. Being in this world has been such an eye opening experience. . . Earlier this year, I knew I wanted to shift in my career. I started working with an amazing literary agent who believed in me and helped me to find a new home for my work. Having @cincinn by my side is a game changer. My new books were pitched and went to auction for bidding (talk about feeling vulnerable). Despite being nervous about what was to come, I trusted the process. . . After having different (and amazing!) publishers to choose from I ended up signing a 2 book deal with @chroniclebooks. A publisher I’ve admired for years. My new editor @rachelhiles won my heart in so many ways, and I am so grateful to call Chronicle Books my new literary home! It’s been a long journey. . . This path has taught me so much about doing the hard thing, choosing myself, naming my worth as an artist, and going for it! Come 2020 you all will have a collection of essays & affirmations from me—followed by a journal to help YOU continue to do your soul-work. . . I share this all to say, you (too) can do your heart’s work. Very few folks believed in me when I started writing. Now my books will outlive me. My story and written work has become my legacy. Don’t be discouraged. Take your time, prepare, ask for help, and unfold to bloom into your passion! . . Thank you ALL for supporting me over the years. I am excited to bring new work to life for you. Be brave, and do the hard thing. You can do the work to get there! . . All my love, Alex

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    Notes on Boundaries: Recently I had to do my part in honoring the boundaries I put in place. So often we talk about others respecting and accepting a boundary, but more times than not, it falls on us to set the trend with honesty and clarity. Personal experience: I know someone who only reaches out when they want something. Their sporadic texts became a trend, laced with needs, wants, favors, and "quick question for ya" that rarely involved care or respect for my time, energy, and space. Despite me knowing this, I continued to answer, show up, and make time when I didn't want to. After a while, I stopped engaging all together, which wasn't a healthy choice, but I didn't want to hurt feelings or cause conflict. Not only that, my problem wasn't addressed or fixed because I decided that saying nothing would speak volumes. It didn't. The Lesson: Using avoidance and calling it a boundary is neither transparent or helpful. Speak up and communicate. . . When this person recently reached out, despite the distance I thought I created; I told them kindly and honestly that I didn't have the space or the desire to connect or talk. That the one-sidedness of our interactions don't work for me, and I would prefer to no longer keep in touch. It was uncomfortable, but if I kept crossing the boundary into nourishing draining relationships, the interactions would keep happening, and I would keep feeling how I felt with the other party not having a clue because of my lack of communication. We are all trying our best to navigate relationships and figure things out. It takes trial and error, effort, and practice to do this thing called life while human. As I grow, I am choosing to invest and place my energy in learning better communication skills, nurturing equally healthy and whole relationships, and finding a better balance with honoring my self boundaries. Community: Where are you placing and investing your time & energy?

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    Day by day. ❤️

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    how are you practicing seasonal self-care?

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